OUR NEXT COURSES START DATES ARE:

 

BRADFORD HORTON TRAINING CENTRE – Thursday 25th May

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KEIGHLEY HEALTHY LIVING –  Monday 5th June at Keighley

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MILLSIDE CENTRE BRADFORD – Friday 2nd June

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TRUSTEE FOR THE HIDDEN HOMELESS LTD

On behalf of the Board of Trustees I am delighted to introduce you to the work of the Hidden Homeless Ltd.

The Trustees are incredibly proud of the achievements of the charity over its seven-year existence and the real difference we make to the lives of vulnerable people.

We are seeking to appoint a new Trustee to join what is a small, professional, warm and supportive Board.  We hope to receive applications from a wide range of talented people irrespective of their religion or belief, gender, age, gender identity, disability, sexual orientation, race, ethnic origin, political belief, relationship status or caring responsibilities.  We particularly welcome applications from groups currently under-represented on the Board, such as women, disabled people, ethnic minorities and people aged under 40.

Neal Heard

Chair

Background

The Hidden Homeless Ltd is a Bradford based Charity Registered with the UK Charity Commission Number 1166977. Our Governing document is a ‘Memorandum and Articles of Association’ incorporated 24 Nov 2011 as amended by special resolution registered at Companies House on 27 April 2016.

 

The Charity exists for the relief of need of people who are homeless, are at risk of becoming homeless, vulnerable or in some way disadvantaged.  The Hidden Homeless provide activities and training which is aimed at increasing the capacity, skills, personal confidence and self-esteem of those people in need of our services, in order that they are better able to identify and help meet their needs and to participate more fully in society.

 

All our beneficiaries have experienced disadvantage.  This may have occurred in their childhood or teenage years, or as an adult.  Our services and activities empower and enable them to make better and positive choices for a more stable and fulfilling life.

 

The Hidden Homeless has an established reputation and our service outcomes are building a body of evidence to secure appropriate commissions and funding in the future. We work with over 50 partners across Bradford District and have plans to increase our capacity and grow our charity across the region. Our work is currently funded for three years by Reaching Communities, a funding stream of The Big Lottery.

 

Role Description:

 

Role: Trustee

Salary – Unremunerated.  Reasonable out of pocket expenses.

Location: Meetings take place at Carlisle Business Centre, Bradford, bi-monthly on a Thursday at 2pm.

Time: 4-6 Management Committee meetings per year (2 hours each)

 

Persona Specification

 

Essential:

  • Committed to The Hidden Homeless charitable mission.
  • Effective, fair and impartial decision making.
  • Empathy with the aims and objectives of The Hidden Homeless.
  • Experience of working in some capacity with vulnerable people.
  • Willingness to contribute the time and effort necessary to the position.
  • Ability to think creatively.
  • Understanding and acceptance of the legal duties, responsibilities and liabilities of trusteeship.
  • Ability to work effectively as a member of a team.
  • Committed to the principles of selflessness, integrity, objectivity, accountability, openness, honesty and leadership.
  • Tact and diplomacy.
  • Good communication and interpersonal skills.
  • Experience of funding or commissioning.
  • Service Development.

 

Key areas of responsibility

  • Ensuring that the charity complies with its governing documents and charitable objectives.
  • Ensuring that the charity’s strategy and business plan is fit for purpose to deliver its mission/objectives.
  • Assisting with advice on funding and commissioning.
  • Ensuring the financial stability of the charity, protecting and managing the charity’s assets.
  • Safeguarding the charity’s reputation and values.
  • Promoting the charity’s mission, attending and participating fully in Board of Trustee meetings, e.g. by offering strategic direction, reviewing policies and evaluating performance.
  • Attending and participating fully in strategy meetings.
  • Supporting recruitment, remuneration and disciplinary processes.

 

 

To Apply

 

Please email a CV and a covering letter stating your experience to:

neal@equalitytogether.org.uk

  By 14th April 2017
Further Details Neal Heard  01274 481590 (daytime)

01274 594923 (evening)

Coming to terms with my irrational guilt written by Cath

When I was 18 I was raped by a friend of my boyfriend.

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It is something I very rarely mention, yet think of quite often.
Many rape victims never talk about what happened to them as they feel they are at fault somehow.
I like to think I’m doing quite well in my recovery from addiction, and actually consider my relapse last year as a part of the journey, I learned a lot from it. I try to maintain a positive mind-set. I go to groups, I’ve made great friends, I work hard to confront my irrational thoughts and beliefs head on in order to understand myself and become a better version of me. I’m a constantly evolving organism, my own masterpiece in the making.
I try to understand how the events in my life have shaped the way I’ve lived in order to take control over how I live now.
I’ve tried to deal with all my open emotional wounds in order to stop myself picking at them little by little and causing deeper scars over time.
And yet, this one event, this trauma, never quite makes its way out. I never quite pluck up the courage to mention it, not to anybody, friends, family, and many counsellors over the years. It’s the one taboo I just can’t bring myself to discuss. And I obviously need to. As I said, I think of it often. And it hurts.
So why can’t I deal with it?
The truth will set you free. Talking about any issue is often the first step in overcoming it.
And then, a few weeks ago, I had a sudden moment of clarity. It happened in the group life coaching I attend weekly. We do a brief check in at the beginning. A girl, I’ll call her Kate, just mentioned when it came to her turn how much the life coaching and the various support services had helped her to learn how to manage her feelings and, in turn, her life. She just dropped it in, in rather a blasé way that she had been raped. The way she said it made it clear that it was a past event that was dealt with and put to bed. Which got me started with this train of thought. Why is my rape not dealt with? Why can’t I announce it like that? Why is it the one thing I can’t be truly honest and open about?
Because, the answer came to me, I am ashamed and I am embarrassed.
I tried to put into words my new understanding to my partner the next day. Why can I not be as brave as Kate and just declare it with no shame? His response was that I don’t want to be identifying myself as a victim. And this got me thinking even more.
Why am I worrying about how it makes me look when it’s not something I had any say in, it’s something I had no responsibility for?
I’m carrying all this shame about something that was done to me. I’m shouldering the blame for somebody else’s decision to ignore word “stop” and beating myself up for failing to change his mind.
Let’s raise our children to respect and understand that no means no!

To hear Kate so matter of factually saying “I got raped and struggled to get my head together for a while,” was the catalyst for a huge awakening for me. It seems such a small, simple thing: “It wasn’t my fault”
And yet it’s taken me 13 years to come to that conclusion. I’m not suddenly ‘over it’, how could I be after battering myself with it for so long? But I understand now why such a painful memory has been walled off and hidden for all this time when other traumatic emotional events that also caused me to feel guilty and ashamed, such as being unable to care for my children and their removal to a family member, or the death by heroin overdose of my best friend and my subsequent arrest, have been plucked out of my head, thrust into the light, discussed and dissected with several friends and professionals throughout the years, until reaching the point where I can think about it and feel the sadness without the onset of anxiety that inevitably leads to me tearing myself apart with one destructive behaviour or another.
I am beginning to truly overcome my obstacles.
So although it will take some time and effort on my part, I can’t help but feel positive about this small break through. Having read up on it, I now know that it is extremely common for people who have been raped to feel this way. Most of us feel that we could have, should have, done something to prevent the attack. Why didn’t I look into this years ago?! By closing myself off to any chance of support, i have been dragging out my suffering all these years. I’ve been letting him win! Well, no more.
What doesn’t kill me WILL make me stronger!
Now that I have been able to find the root of the disturbance that the memory of my rape causes me, I can start to come to terms with it and move forwards a little lighter in my heart. One person’s actions don’t define who I am. I know I can overcome what somebody else did to me and I know that my journey of recovery from addiction has just been made a little easier to travel because of this knowledge.
And, of course, I would not have been in the right place, emotionally and mentally, to have come to these conclusions, to have taken the rape out of its box and had a good look at why it was still messing me up, if not for the life coaching and the Smart Recovery meetings, provided by The Hidden Homeless. It is thanks to that support in working on myself that I have come this far and feel ready to confront my remaining demons.

CASE STUDY

Catherine  case study quarter 2 22/06/15

Catherine has been attending our life coaching group and our smart recovery over the last 3 months and has shown a great insight into the recovery process, Cathy has overcome a lot of adversity in her life and Cathy was carrying a lot of guilt and shame throughout her journey and stated she had relapsed a few times in the past.

She also stated she found it hard to let go of the guilt she carried for the loss of her children which was due to her drug use, Cathy is determined never to return to using and feels she is ready to help others who have suffered from addiction and adversity and is aiming to have more contact with her kids.

Cathy stated at the beginning of her journey with The Hidden Homeless she felt Overwhelmed and had no idea what to do next she felt as if she was slightly of control with her thoughts and feelings and a slip back was just a matter of time.

Cathy now cognises her thinking patterns which lead to negative feelings and depression. and normally leads to chaotic behaviour patterns but now Cathy is feeling good about the power and control she has over your thoughts and feelings which is enabling to move forward with her life in a positive direction.

Cathy also stated she was now able to make friends easier which had been very difficult in the past, the relationships she is making with the other clients is one that is nurturing and compassionate a real success story in the making, Cathy wants to become a facilitator and volunteer to work with her peers.

 

Gary Staniforth

Ceo

Testimony

“When I started this course, I felt I had nothing to look forward to, this course has helped me see change is possible, & that I have so much to look forward too. Thank you Nina & Gary for changing my life around” T Apps

Testimony

“I have really enjoyed the course, it has helped me to open up my mind to new things & thinking. Nina runs it so well & is so lovely. I am feeling so happy right now thank you.” B Dignam

Testimony

“This course has helped me to feel better about myself, I have enjoyed it so much. Nina is so lovely, I will miss her & the course each week thank you” G Exley